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The next right thing

A lot of things have been on my mind lately and I know it has to do with everything that’s going on in the world at the moment – all of the changes, the different way of life, the questions that linger around in my mind about the present and the future. You know what I mean, I bet you’ve thought about or have been thinking about all of these things yourself.

Just a quick disclaimer: I know that it has been a while since I’ve posted a blog post. I’ve been waiting for my website and brand to be launched as I can finally work as a Counsellor in independent practice (thank you to the incredible @mintcreativestudio for making this happen).

I’m currently rejoicing about new beginnings! When I say it’s been a journey, this process has genuinely taken about a whole year. You know what they say, good things take time. I have had to also wait to transfer my blog over to my own website and domain and that has taken some time too, but now we’re finally here and I’m ready to post again! Thank you for being so understanding. 

Like I said at the beginning of this post, a lot of things have been going through my mind and I’ve noticed that it has caused a lot of emotional shifts within me because of it. Have you noticed this too? There is a lot that I want to say about this world pandemic. There is a lot that needs to be addressed and in all honesty, I don’t even know where to begin. One of the biggest sources of my distress lately has been the news and social media. It’s because a lot of what we are seeing and hearing at the moment isn’t exactly positive. It’s actually kind of scary. I know that for me, it has been causing a lot of extra worry and distress within me, mentally, emotionally and physically. It pops up here and there. Sometimes it’s really prominent and then on other days it’s far more subtle, but it’s still there. So that’s exactly what I’m not going to do. I’m choosing not to add to that. Today, I want to share something with you that encourages me, especially during this time. 

Keep it simple! – focus on doing the next right thing. 

One of the most helpful things I have ever heard is to do “the next right thing”. I can’t even remember where I heard it from, but the message seems to have stuck. I don’t know about you, but those words calm something within my soul. It takes a really crazy, knot of wiry mess and makes it straight again. It says “don’t worry about the overall picture right now, don’t worry about the unanswered questions and the uncertainty, just do the next right thing”. It’s a reminder that there is major power in our choices and that we get to choose our next step and that step doesn’t have to be a giant one, it can be a really tiny, yet necessary one. 

I think that one of our biggest downfalls as humans can be when we over complicate stuff. We take simple things, simple concepts, simple thoughts and ideas and we turn them into complex situations. We then find ourselves fighting to get back to the uncomplicated way of doing things – home-made, organic, natural, homegrown, non-plastic, environmentally friendly, gluten-free, you get the picture. 

I think this is exactly what we need though. We do in fact need simple things. We don’t need to over complicate our lives, especially when the world feels a little bit extra chaotic. 

All you need to pay attention to is doing the next right thing, whatever that may be for you. 

It may include getting up at the same time you do every morning even though you’re not going to work. It may include making your bed, pouring a cup of tea, shaving your beard or in my case, starting a veggie garden. It might include reading one of your favourite books, rewatching your favourite series or a movie from your childhood. It might be calling a friend or family member. It could be making sure that you’ve had something really good to eat today or spending some quiet time listening to music while you journal or read your bible. It could even mean taking a nap, completing some work, saying something positive to yourself about yourself or helping someone out who may be in need. There will always be someone out there needing a helping hand. It may even be you that needs it and if this is the case, doing the next right thing may simply mean asking for help. 

There are a lot of do’s and don’ts going around at the moment. And sometimes you have to turn off all of those other ‘voices’ suggesting this and telling you that in order to really allow yourself the space to figure out exactly what you need to do, for your own health and well-being. It is about you and it’s allowed to be – looking after yourself is not selfish. It’s about acknowledging what you need in this time. It’s about self compassion, understanding and reassurance. It’s about doing the next best thing FOR YOU so that you can do the next best thing for someone else – your partner, your child, your parent, sibling, colleague, friend, pet and even stranger. It’s about keeping it simple. 

I hope you enjoyed this blog post! I hope it encouraged you in some way and provided some food for thought.

Lastly, I would like to suggest approaching how much time you’re spending watching the news or scrolling through social media, with caution. One of the best things you can do is to make sure that what you’re feeding your mind is positive and makes you feel good about yourself. It’s also beneficial to set time limits/focus on being intentional with the time you spend watching TV or the time you spend on your phone, tablet or computer. 

Stay safe out there.

Thank you for reading xx 

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